I will still struggle to find time to do the dishes, vacuum or even shower. Nap whilst the baby naps you say? Which one; the toddler who is cutting his molars and throwing tantrums or the newborn who won't sleep without being held. There is no way they will nap in sync surely; even if they did I wouldn't dare nap! I would shower alone and wash my hair; I would vacuum those floors and possibly even mop and if I had time who knows I might even wash the dishes which have sat there since before babe was born. So please don't expect me to have this shit down pat. It may be my second baby, but it's still new in a lot of ways. 

If your planning on popping in, just send a text let me know your coming. I fall to pieces under pressure and stress so if I have ten people turn up at once there is going to be one crazy emotional bitch,  and two children which will be feeling my stress. 

When your visiting please help yourself, make coffee or tea I'll probably need one too! Ask me how I am coping. I know the baby is what you have come to see, but reassurance that people are there for me too will take a weight off my shoulders.

I know some family or friends will snicker and gossip about this post, but it's honest. This blog is a coping mechanism, a place to voice my opinions share experiences and learn. It's not a list of rules and no you don't have to “schedule a visit”. Just show respect and note that we don't just have this in the bag.