I'm sorry you lost you girlfriend

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I want you all to meet someone, 16 year old me. Fun, loud, cocky and spontaneous. I was care free and gave less than zero fucks about anything. I didn't stress about anything more than making sure my hair and makeup was perfect before leaving my bedroom for the day; no not even leaving the house...
Surprisingly somewhere over the past 5 years somethings changed. 

Dear my fiancé,

Do you feel cheated, that the girl you fell for is no longer the girl your engaged to? In some ways you should, it's kinda false advertising right? Well I'm sorry you lost your girlfriend, but you did gain a fiancé and two children.

I'm sorry I no longer ask how high when you say jump, it doesn't mean I love you any less. But hey let's face it we both went to extreme lengths to try please each other when we were first dating, it's what you do because you want them but once you have them you relax, get comfy and true colours show. 
You don't only relax and dull down on compliments and nice gestures, you also let yourself go. I'm sorry I'm no longer that slim yet curvy girl with perky boobs. I no longer have time to take pride in my appearance and that has blown my self confidence put the window. 

But guess what baby? I'm not sorry that I lost my body to gain our two boys. That my makeup sits there staring at me rather than being on my face. I actually don't mind the little rut we are stuck in, day in day out. You know why? Because we do it together, as a family, as one. 
 
Love Tiarne x

I'm sorry about the newborn

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Dear my toddler, I'm sorry about the newborn. 

The moment you walked into the hospital room will forever bring a tear to my eye. You were mesmerised and inlove. No words can come close to explaining the connection I felt between the four of us. 

Mummy's favourite words have became STOP and GENTLE; I'm sorry I know you just want to love him. 
Only last week you had me all to yourself, please remember I'm still mummy. You just need to share me now. I'm sorry that my arms sometimes can't cuddle the two of you, but my heart will never be too crowded for you.
Mummy is sorry that baby cries and sometimes I can't make him stop. Mummy is sorry that she makes you cry; I know you only want my attention but mummy is learning too. 

But guess what darling? I'm not sorry about a lot of things too. 
I'm not sorry that you now have a best friend, a play mate, and a brother. 
I'm not sorry that without you knowing this is teaching you things; independence as well as how to love and care for something. To help others and to share. 
I'm not sorry that we extended our family. I'm not sorry that we created more love. 

Love Mummy


Is my heart big enough for two?

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"Will I ever love my second child as much as my first?"
"How can this new baby even compete with the strength of the bond with my toddler?"
"Am I a bad person for feeling this way?"
"What if I don't get any one on one time with my first born?"

These are all questions running through my head... Of course I know I will fall instantly In love with the bundle of life inside of me, the moment he looks into my eyes, that first cry and gasp of air. I just don't know if I'm ready to fall in love like that all over again? I know my heart will break if Charlie feels replaced, pushed aside or second best. His been my one and only for almost two years now. His whole life it's just been my attention solely focused on him. 

With saying all of this, seeing Charlie's eyes light up with delight when we are in the nursery, whilst his kissing my belly and asking for the baby, makes my heart melt. It gives me hope. Maybe it will be okay? Maybe he will also fall in love and slip into his role of big brother. Shane and I will both be learning all over again, but so will Charlie. He will be learning how to share, no not his toys, his mum and dad. 

Wish me luck,
Mummy Blogger.

Mummy Blogger Makes || featuring thesweetmamalife

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This week on mummybloggermakes we have Karly joining us to share one of her easy family friendly meals! I actually love this and planning in trying out her recipie Friday night. 

As you all know Friday I'm attending a Melbourne market so hopefully this is a quick easy and super yum meal for me to throw together once I'm home (: 


The Sweet Mama Life’s Easy Weeknight Pie


I’m no Martha Stewart. In fact, I’m probably the exact opposite! Our house is clean, but always untidy; I always manage to find a way to get lint on the washing; and I can’t cook to save my life. So I love it when I find a recipe that I can actually cook AND tastes delicious AND is a cheap weeknight meal for a family on a budget with a new baby. Easy, cheap, and delicious – who doesn’t love that!? The other thing I love about this recipe is that you can mix it up and add whatever ingredients take your fancy. I have provided the basic pie recipe with a few examples of how you can mix it up, but the choices really are endless!



Ingredients:


1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1 large brown onion, finely diced
500g lean beef mince
125ml (1/2 cup) tomato sauce
60ml (1/4 cup) Worcestershire sauce
60ml (1/4 cup) boiling water
1 egg, lightly whisked
1 sheet of frozen puff pastry, thawed.  

Method:

Preheat oven to 200°C.

Heat oil in a frying pan over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook, stirring, for 2 minutes.

Add mince and cook, stirring to break up lumps, for 3 minutes or until it changes colour.

Add tomato sauce, Worcestershire and 60ml (1/4 cup) of water and cook for 5 minutes or until sauce thickens.

Divide among four 300ml ovenproof dishes or ramekins.

Cut puff pastry to size and place over top of ramekin, pressing sides down gently with a fork. Brush with egg. Make a slit in the pastry top with the point of a knife. Bake for 25 minutes or until golden brown.


Mix it up!

Serve pies with mashed potato and steamed vegetables for a healthy and hearty meal.

Add grated carrot and zucchini to the mince mixture for an extra dose of hidden nutrients for those fussy eaters.

Add some bacon when cooking off onion, and a layer of cheese between the meat and pastry for some cheese and bacon goodness.

Scrap the pastry and top your pie with some creamy mashed potato for Shepherd’s pie perfection!

Cook 300g frozen baby peas until soft and mash with a dollop of butter for those that love their pies with mushy peas.


You can find Karly on Instagram as @thesweetmamalife or on her blog thesweetmamalife.blogspot.com ! 

Opinionated Family Members

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So I'm sure every new mum has one family member who gets in their ear and says do this or do that. Most of the time they probably are only trying to help, but I know that for me I like to learn from trial and error! 

When we decided to begin controlled crying it was difficult to let people watch Charlie because we needed to continue our methods for them to be effective. One time of someone cuddling him to sleep would ruin all our work and progress. The grandparents and greatgrandparents of Charlie didn't really agree with our methods at all, it was difficult for me to stand up for myself and say stop. But Shane was able to talk to them and get them to understand and respect our wishes.

Don't feel as though your parenting techniques are wrong just because they may differ to other peoples. Your doing a great job! (: 

Christmas & Boxing Day

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My Grumps (grandfather) said something yesterday which pretty much summed it all up in a few short words. "We look forward to this moment each year, it's a shame that it only comes around once".
It touched my heart a little because even though I try to take Charlie to see them as much as I can. Some of the family only do visit once a year for Christmas and it's the only time we are all together at once. 

Christmas Day 
We woke up at 6am! I was so excited for Charlie to open his presents I didn't even try to coax him back for snuggles to et some extra sleep! He opened all the presents from us and santa, then the mad rush began to prepare food and set up tables for lunch which I was hosting (: 
With the help of my fiancé and sister in law we got everything set up and looking lovely! (: 
The day was fabulous, great company, delicious food, alcohol and lots of laughs. Charlie got absolutely spoilt rotten! He has so many toys which I don't even know where to put. 
The extended families all left at their own pace and for the immediate family the lunch tuned into dinner where all the left overs once again made a really good feast. 



Boxing Day
Boxing Day we went and visited my grandparents on my dads side who we did not see on Christmas Day. They absolutely adore Charlie and I wish I could take him to see them so much more often! 
Afterwards we went to Shane's mums side of the family which was a dinner. That was a fabulous afternoon with food, backyard cricket, fun, laughter and some more sneaky beverages! (: 


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