My Birth Story | My VBAC | My Success

From the moment I found out I was pregnant - waaait... Let's rephrase that, from the moment Charlie's birth ended in an emergency csection I knew I wanted a vaginal birth for my next child. 
I spent so much time researching reading and educating myself; Shane called me obsessed, he believed I was letting it consume me. I joined a support group on Facebook, I asked questions and spoke to other woman who had experienced vbacs personally. 
I began to feel empowered. 
I felt strong.

Archer Raymomd Mcconnell, here is his birth story.

7am Sunday 6th of March. 
I woke with a loss of fluid in my underwear and a soft crampy feeling in my stomach. By 9am I was having light contractions and I made a phone call to the hospital. 
The hospital was really easy going not phased at all until I mentioned I was a VBAC... The midwife told me to go in immediately; I told her I would come when I was ready. 



12pm Sunday 6th March.
We set off for the hospital, in no rush what so ever. We stopped for lunch, dropped the toddler off with his Nanna and even made a pit stop at McDonald's. My contractions we becoming more mild and regular at this stage. Both Shane and I were shocked at how I was riding through each contraction and staying so calm. I was enjoying it. I knew I was going to birth this baby out of my vagina! 
2pm Sunday 6th March.
Arrived at the hospital, was asked to sit through half an hour of CTG. After letting them know how I felt about continuous fetal monitoring they were kind enough to take it off after 15 minutes. Contractions had fizzled since arriving at hospital and being made to sit down, they were only coming here and there. The doctor preformed a speculum to clarify whether my waters ruptured at 7am or if the fluid was more mucus plug. My cervix was closed and there were no signs of my membranes rupturing. 
So we headed home. 
11pm Sunday 6th March.
After labouring at home all afternoon it was time to go to hospital, knowing we were an hour away I began to think we wouldn't make it! Safe to say Shane managed to get us to the hospital in about half the time... 


Once at hospital the midwife I had was amazing, she had also had three vbacs herself! At 2am we did a vaginal exam and I was 6cms, she told the OB I was only 4cms incase my labour stalled so there would definitely be progress ;) how sneaky. 
The hot shower worked wonders for my back pain at this stage. The midwife also had me "marching" to help bring baby down and finish turning him as he was still slightly posterior. We got down on the floor on all fours and did knee to chest position through about 5 contractions and wow the relief this had on my back was amazing too! It was around this time I asked for the gas. 
As time passed and the contractions became more intense as did the back labour, nothing was easing it. I had a shot of pethadine to try take the edge off. Like Charlie's birth the pethadine helped me relax, I managed to rest between contractions.
5am Monday 7th of March.
At 5am they broke my waters and soon after I was pushing. Not willingly pushing like I did with Charlie, not trying to push him out, my body had taken over, it was pushing, it was intense and the back pain was unbearable. I begged for an epidural. 
The midwife went away and came back and said we could try sterile water injections, I told her to call the anethiest, that I wasn't consenting to anything other than an epidural and to get me a fucking epidural now. With having the epidural she said I had to stop my body pushing; this was hell. Trying to stop something you have no control over, words can't explain the feeling.
The anethiest came and tried to introduce herself and tell me the risks involved. This is something I didn't want to hear and with over lapping contractions it wasn't something I was going to take in either. I rudely told her I knew the risks and I had done more than enough research. 
Unlike the spinal block which I became numb instantly the epidural felt like it took forever to kick in...
After a vaginal exam by the OB (mind you this was the first I had seen the OB all night) they decided that forceps would need to be used to help deliver my son. The lip on my cervix could be pushed to the side but it kept coming back. ( Can't remember any technical words to try explain it...
Due to a failed intervention of a vacuum extraction with Charlie's birth they prepped for a cesarean. This meant we all moved down to theatre; at this point I was scared. It was all too familiar; thoughts of failure dwelled in my mind. I began apologising to Shane, God knows why but I did.
I'm guessing it was somewhere around 8am as we were all moving to theatre. A lot of people introduced themselves to Shane and I. My epidural was topped up, incase of cesarean, this I was thankful for because it now blocked out all back pain. The contractions were fine, I could ride through each wave; the back pain was on a different level.
Before I knew it they guided me as to when I needed to push. After a few pushes the help of the forceps and an episiotomy, I felt lots of pressure and they told me his head was out! One more push and he was brought straight up onto my chest. The blood, the slime and all the amazing stuff was all over me. I fucking did it, I got what I wanted. Tears welled in my eyes and I looked up at Shane, he kissed my head, no one has ever looked at me with so much pride in their eyes. I honestly wouldn't of been able to succeed without him.
8.49am Sunday 7th of March.
Archer was born, he came silently and calmly into the world. This scared Neo asked the modwovws several times why isn't he crying, is he okay, is he breathing? They assured me he was fine and soon after he began to cry, that first cry which you will never forget. I had skin to skin for over an hour and archer attached and had a great feed. 

Okay guys I just need to stop there! I could keep writing about the hours and days later. I could go into so much more depth and detail about the labour and birth, but I won't. I am happy to answer any questions you have so feel free to comment on this blog or slip me an email. 
tiarne.straatmam@gmail.com
I hope you enjoyed this brief but super long outline of my labour and fingers crossed I haven't left out anything!
If you reached the end thanks so much for reading this novel 💕

Late pregnancy, Pre birth and preparing for labour | TOOLKIT

There is so much information on the internet, sifting through and finding articles and blogs which are generally helpful can be difficult. Hell, I've only just found a handful of websites which have helped me form a conclusive decision on my wants during my labour and I have been looking all pregnancy... For the new readers, I'm 30 weeks today! My 30 week update will be up tomorrow after my midwife appointment incase you were wondering.
Anyway I have decided to put together a little tool box or brief case type blog full of handy links to information I believe is relevant not only to VBAC mums like myself, but first time mothers freaking out about labour, or even second or third time mums wanting to re fresh their minds.

Phoenix Therapies - Clary Sage Oil
Now I always thought this was a super no go because of the strength and dangers of induction... Turns out in the correct dosage and method it can be more helpful! I won't be using to induce as many others do, I will be using as a calming pain relief during labour. 

VBACfacts.com - discussion on Evening Primrose Oil
This one was a very interesting read, it doesn't tell you to use or not to use EPO but it shows lack of evidence supporting the benefits as well as some studies which go in to explain how it could be linked to bleeding.
It's an informative read but doesn't help form a decision either way in my opinion.

VBACfacts.com - Uterine Rupture and epidurals
Uterine Rupture hasn't been something I have read much into when regarding symptoms ect, I believe that would freak me out more than necessary. I have researched the statistics and are comfortable with them as well as the risks in comparison with multiple cesareans. 
*ill include a diagram below of risks comparing the two. 

Pregnancy.com - raspberry leaf tea
This article explains all about RLT the dosages and when to take ect. I found this super helpful as I'm about to begin using the tea myself. 

The following two links are to other pages on my blog I thought you may find helpful.
Birth Affirmations
Birth Plans



Here are two diagrams explaining the statistics risks and benefits of both vbacs and caesareans. 




You know those letter coded positions the OBs and midwives write down at your antenatal appointments? Yes well here are pictures and the codes for you to work through and discover on your own (:


How to stay positive whilst in labour

BIRTH AFFIRMATIONS || 

Just finding and reading all these little quotes and statements lift my mood and create such a positive atmosphere. 
I generally believe they will help me through my low points during labour. 

You can print them out onto card, create a pin board or a pocket book and take that into hospital with you. 



Here are a few of my favourites which I just found via google images. There are actually a million different affirmations in this same theme. So if your kinda unofficially ocd like me you'll love the fact everything can match! 

I'm contemplating creating an ebook and making my own affirmations in a few different themes which can be printed ect. I would REALLY love feedback on this idea so please comment below, email tiarne.straatman@gmail.com, contact via Instagram or Facbook.

Introducing • Your Insta Midwife

I stumbled upon this little IG and thought what a great source of info for all mothers first time or pregnant with different complications this time like myself! This feature will answer some of the commonly asked questions about VBACS. 

About me 

Hi my name is Amy, and I’m a student midwife. Growing up I often spent a lot of time on my grandparent’s farm in a country town, surrounded by animals and their young.  With my mother being a nurse, and my father a social worker, my four siblings and I were almost was handed the passion to care for others. It wasn’t until I was eight years old when I was granted the newfound responsibility of an aunt to twins that my fascination of pregnancy and birth was sparked. It is now my passion, to support women in any aspect of their journey through labour, birth and motherhood.  And being a student, my head is constantly filled with information, and I love sharing it with people who want to hear it.  That is why I created this Instagram page, in the hope that I will touch the lives of any more women than I do in the clinic, birth unit and postnatally throughout my career. 

 

What is a VBAC?

A VBAC is a vaginal birth after cesarean. This is almost the same as any other vaginal brith, expect for the fact that doctors and midwives will monitor your progress much more closely. This is because of the relatively small risk (1 in 200) that your previous cesarean scar will tear or your uterus will rupture. Despite this risk there are many benefits of a VBAC, including faster recovery, shorter hospital stay, higher chance of skin-to-skin after birth, more physically mobile and able to care for their baby (and other children), better chance of breastfeeding initiation and less complications in future pregnancies. 

 

What is a CSECTION?

 A C- section or cesarean is a surgical procedure in which they make a low horizontal incision into your abdomen and uterus to deliver your baby. Depending on the reason to deliver via cesarean, pain relief is administered normally by epidural block or spinal block - general anaesthetic in emergencies. Delivery by cesarean is safe, and normally carried out due to precaution or necessity. However, it is major surgery and it does carry risks. These include, risk of infection, future pregnancy complications and breathing difficulties for baby. Disadvantages include longer recovery time, extended hospital stay, monitoring and less mobility. 

 

Do you agree that a lot of Cesareans which are occurring are not necessary, and if so, why?

Unfortunately, yes. We now live in a world where the normality of birth has been tainted with fear and apprehension due to the newfound necessity to medically intervene. This includes anything from restricting the woman to a bed with a CTG, to breaking her waters to an unnecessary cesarean. And as grateful as we are that emergency caesareans and instrumental births are available, the accessibility has become of ease and has narrowed the mind of obstetrics into allowing for a natural birth. Keep in mind obstetricians are only in the room if they perceive something is not right, they do not deliver normal births on a daily basis like midwives. And that is why in most cases, they are out of their comfort zone and respond with the idea that they need to do something – and that is intervention, whether or not it is needed or beneficial for the woman or baby. 

 

In a lot of cases, woman like myself feel cheated if the cesarean is not necessary. Why do you believe doctors and midwives are throwing the prolonged labour and the big baby card around so lightly? 

I can completely respect that is how you feel, and as midwives we feel just as cheated. We are the last people in the room that want you to have to experience intervention if it is not necessary. Cesareans do need to occur in obstetric emergencies or if babies heart rate is decreasing after contractions – often due to the baby getting tired or stressed.  If however it is not one of these things, and you have just been in labour for a long time, there is no concern. Early labour, especially for first time mothers can take up to 20 plus hours, established labour can take up to 8-12 hours and they say an hour maximum for pushing. But in the end, prolonged labour and the big baby card comes down to fear and fear of the unknown. Doctors’ would much rather have the baby out faster and their head spared than wait another few hours for you to achieve your optimum birth. Midwives however, do try and advocate for you as best they can to prevent this intervention, it just depends on the day, the doctor, the midwife, the situation and unfortunately, the hospital.

 

Three things you can do in pregnancy or labour to increase VBAC chances and avoid a cesarean? 

1. Care - Choose an obstetrician who is supportive of VBAC's and perhaps attempt to have shared care with a caseload midwife or midwifery student (as they can follow you through your whole pregnancy and birth and be your advocate).

 

2. Preparation - Go to special VBAC classes and birth classes so you know what to expect - and hear advice from other mothers who have had a VBAC. Do also try to keep active and healthy during pregnancy, this will help prepare your body for birth and increase your chances.


3. Birth - Make your birth environment optimal for a normal birth, so that you are comfortable and relaxed. This includes having the constant support of your partner/support person to increase the likelihood of a VBAC. 

 

Advice for women who are planning on having a VBAC or cesarean? 

Be confident in your choice but try not to go in with a closed mind, as birth alone is an unpredictable event and despite our efforts to make things go normally and smoothly, it's not always the case. Despite my feelings towards intervention, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to give birth, just a hope that whatever way your baby is born into this world, that it is a positive experience for you. 



VBAC | handy websites, pages and info

I thought I would share my favourite places to gather info on vbacs. After my post the other day I realised there is more people than I once believed going through the exact same thing as me! It's nice to know your not alone and with some of these links I hope you too can feel encouraged and supported.

Facebook page - VBAC Australia support group 
This page is full of woman who have achieved or are planning a vaginal birth after one or multiple Cesareans. All these woman are supportive, empowering and so caring. 

Book - Birthing from within
Book - ina mays guide to child birth

www.vbac.com
a woman centred, evidence based resource.

www.childbirthconnection.org
This website answered some of the questions which were rolling around in my mind when I first decided to attempt  a vaginal birth. 


Birth Plans | useful or a controlling woman

I thought birth plans were just for those obsessed woman who try to control every aspect of their labour and birth. Full of unrealistic preferences! 
Well I couldn't be more wrong, the amount of birth plans I have read since educating myself about birth labour and especially vbacs; has now showed me how useful a birth plan can be. 

Visual birth plan : 
Here is an example of a quick easy to read visual birth plan. There are websites that you can create these on and there are millions of samples in google images such as this one. 


Work out what you do and don't want for yourself and your baby. This will be easier for your second birth as you know a little about what you didn't enjoy last time. Create a birth plan which yourself, your support team and the hospital are all agreeable on and have a poster in your labour room. (: 

Once I create my birth plan I will share it with you all. Here are aome of the things I will be including. 
Free movement
Minimal VEs (vaginal examinations) 
Calm environment with dimmed lighting
No students or interns
Food and Drink over IV
Immediate skin to skin
Exclusively Breastfed 

VBAC | educating myself or obsessed?

I knew from day dot that this pregnancy would be so different from my first with Charlie. Charlie's pregnancy went smoothly, yet I was uneducated and blissfly unaware of all the things that could go wrong when giving birth. I had no idea that I had options and I could decline procedures. 
When I found out I was pregnant with little mini #2 I was determined to educate myself and prepare in everyway so I could achieve my dream of a VBAC. 
VBAC - vaginal birth after cesarean. 

My birth story with Charlie is already on the blog, it should be in the file section of the drop down menu if the blog is behaving! Technology and I have a love hate relationship.

I started researching and quickly learnt what I did and didn't want for the birth of this baby. I learnt that your care providers and support need to be 100% committed. I learnt I have options and that when my OB try's to tell me it's too dangerous to attempt a VBAC I can slam the facts in her face and tell her I have 199 chances out of 200 of successfully giving birth to this baby! 

I also learnt that I may or may not be getting a little obsessed with all of this. 😂 what do you guys think? Obsessed or just educating myself? 

Throw back to my little family ♥️

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